Hello friends...
So today was pretty good. I have to say, the morning got off to a really sketchy start but I've already told this story a few times so I'll keep it short. Basically, my neighbor (who is this really old lady, not to sound mean, i mean that to state a fact, shes like in her 80s) but anyway, shes kinda the lady thats all the little kids are scared of to give you an idea of her. Anyway, she asks me to go into her house to help her with the volume on her TV. I felt really bad and didn't want to be mean so I went. I know she was probably just lonely and wanting to talk to someone even for just a sec, so that's why I did it. But I have to say I was kind of scared going into her house. And I was already running late for school. So i was really late. But it all worked out.
Oh, side note, has anyone ever heard Neon Tiger by The Killers? I'm listening to it now and it's just captivating...and I'm not even saying that because of my infatuation with The Killers lol, the message behind it is just so deep. And I will probably blog about it later on but that would be really long and this is already long lol.
So we had a college visit from NIU and that was kind of mind numbing...not to be mean, I'm just not interested. It seems like a good school just not where I want to be. But much more importantly, we had a speaker come in from San Diego, awesome dude, total west coast surfer guy. Anyway, he was talking about abstinence and chastity and purity and all of that good stuff. I'm not going to lie, I was totally not into the idea at all and was a little adamant on listening to what he had to say. And honestly, like I was a little freaked out by the idea of a MAN coming into an all-girl school and talking about not having sex. Just a little ironic to me, but anyway...oh he made Mr. Shelton wear a wig and he carried him to prove a point. It was epic lol. But I need to get to the point so here it is. It was actually kind of eye opening and he really did a good job of presenting his case. I mean he wasn't all like "oh that's a sin you're going to hell...sex is dirty, bad bad bad!". No not anything like that. He gave us legit stories that I think a lot of us were secretly relating to. And it really is making me look at some decisions I've made in my life and it's making me feel like I should maybe try changing some of these things. I don't think I will get into nitty gritty details, but I will say that I realized that a lot of how guys perceive us is about what we let them perceive. And sure there are lots of jerks with their heads completely in the gutter and those are the ones we just need not deal with. But there are lots of guys out there who are yearning for a relationship with a real independent woman who they can respect, they just don't see us respecting ourselves too much. And bc generally speaking, boys are just stupid, and also just over-flooded with certain messages saying what is manly and what is not (9xs outta 10 saying that the "manly" men are the players, even though we all know it's bull) they don't understand that they should treat us with respect at all times. So we have to spell it out for them. Just like everything else. I really loved the idea of making a list of qualities you want in a guy, more specifically a husband, and how we should never settle for anything les. He told us about a girl who made up a list of 60 things so she didn't have a boyfriend for like 3 years, but when she found one it was really great and it was all worth it. I'm going to do that and I might even post my list on here.
The most important thing that struck me of all was how he said that we should never get into a relationship with a guy who has a quality (or anything at all about him) that we hope will change. We have to only be in relationships with people who we want to say exactly the same forever. Which makes perfect sense to me because if you love them exactly as they are, that's true love. So that was my ramble of the day. Any thoughts on this anyone? See you all tomorrow!!